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So you’re ready to take the plunge and cohabitate with your partner? While many think that love is all you need, it’s important to think through this important milestone before you make any decisions. Here are 11 tips that need to be addressed before you start picking out curtains together.
Have a Sit Down:
Before you and your partner make the big leap into cohabitation, pull up a chair and be ready to put it all on the table. Talk about your financial situations in detail, to make sure you are both on the same page as to what’s expected. List your incomes, debts and any other monetary issues to get a clear picture of your combined financial state. Only after you get a sense of what’s possible should you start talking about a place together.
Lay Down the Law:
There’s a big difference between sharing long weekends together and sharing a living space together. While you need to compromise and take into consideration your partner’s daily habits, it’s important to lay down some ground rules. Splitting up chores and finances before you settle in can prevent future disagreements and ensure that both parties are pulling their own weight. If you can’t agree on how to live, you may want to re-think this new living arrangement.
Your Place or Mine? Or Ours?:
Depending on your living current situations, one person may already have a suitable place to start your new life together. This obviously takes the stress out of trying to find a new home, helping you dodge some ugly disagreements. But depending on your relationship, you may want to start fresh and find a place together, something that you can both agree on. When making this decision, be honest and open about any concerns or hesitations. A small disagreement is easier to smooth over than a nasty move out.
Take Your Time:
If you’ve made the decision to start fresh with a new home base, don’t rush to make that move. If you want to find the perfect home for you and your loved one, it may take a little time. It’s important to find something you can both agree on. Look at all your options and be honest about your expectations. It’s better to wait a little to get that perfect place then having to move again in a year because it didn’t fit all of your needs.
If you’re already living on your own, chances are you’ve accumulated quite a bit of stuff. And when two people move in together, it means double everything. Take a look at your furniture, appliances, and kitchen supplies and decide what to keep and what to toss. But remember to be sensitive, you may think that wagon wheel coffee table is ugly but your partner may want to hold on to it for dear life.
Don’t Forget About the Four Legged Roomies:
Got a pet? That’s going to alter your search just a bit. Unfortunately having a furry friend puts limitations on your ability to live wherever you want. If you have a dog, look for a place with a yard or easy access to the outdoors. Cats are easier to accommodate but still need to be taken into consideration. If you’re renting, be ready to put down an additional pet security deposit to cover any damage that may be done to the home. And most of all, if you both have pets, make sure they get along before they are forced to become roommates too.
Tap Your Inner Boy Scout and Be Prepared:
With most places, you’re going to have to show proof that you can afford the payments. Get your bank statements, paystubs, references and previous tax returns ready to go. If you’re prepared, this will help speed up the application process and ensure that the perfect house or apartment doesn’t slip away.
To DIY or Not DIY:
A move involving two separate households is no small task. Not only are you combining two sets of everything, you’re moving from two different locations which could be miles apart. When debating to either rent a truck and doing it yourself or hiring a professional, there’s a lot to take into consideration. What is your budget? If you do it yourself, will have others available to help you? How skilled are you at moving furniture? Be sure to make the right decision for you and your partner, as the moving process can truly test the strength of your relationship.
Label It Up:
Combining two sets of everything can get very messy. Make it easier on yourself and your partner by clearly labeling and organizing your belongings. This will help speed up the unpacking, making for a smoother transition into your new home.
Create Your Own Space:
While the two of you are living together, you are still two separate people. It’s important to keep up with our own hobbies, friends and engagements once the cohabitation is complete. If space permits, allow for your own place in the house that you can call your own. While it’s great to be around your partner 24/7, you may need a little breathing room once in a while.
Relax and Enjoy….But Don’t Forget to Compromise:
The hassle is over, you’re moved in and ready to start this new adventure with that special someone in your life. While this is all very exciting, it does take quite a bit of patience. If you’ve lived alone, it may take a while to get used to sharing a living space with another human being (no matter how much you love them). Before getting upset about the dirty dishes in the sink or the wet towels on the floor, remember that this is part of the deal of cohabitating. Compromise is essential and the key to a new happy home.